Welcome to Module 3: Transforming Anger to Freedom
Please listen to the accompanying audio lecture with this text.
This week you’ll be working with clearing old, stuck anger in the body. It may be difficult to work through these emotions, but hang in there. Exploring and processing these feelings is necessary to make way for your light.
Anger can be a difficult emotion to own, because in US culture, we’re not exactly taught how to express anger appropriately, or in healthy ways. Anger typically shows up consciously where there is a serious threat of physical danger, or when a boundary has been crossed in our material lives. There are, however, also subconscious ways that anger can be present. For example, anger can occur on the body level when, for instance, the intuitive body rejects or is not happy with something happening to it. An example would be a surgery. There could also be anger on the spiritual level, where the spirit is simply angry for having to be here on the physical plane.
Most of the time, we are able to consciously recall what makes us angry. Not being able to remember the source of some anger, however, is a likely indicator of unprocessed anger. Unprocessed anger is exactly what it says it is: anger that is suppressed and left unprocessed from the time of the event that was impactful. For instance, you feel angry and hurt at how you are being treated (this may have been when you were a child or adolescent, or it may have been yesterday, at the hands of co-worker); you feel angry and hurt, but, for a variety of reasons, you can’t express that your angery, so you suppress it; you stuff it away.
Suppressed anger expresses itself typically through symptoms in the body: weight gain, soar throats, anxiety, digestive issues, ulcers, liver issues, hives, eczema, and the like.
Anger can be a way of saying: “I feel hurt.” If we can’t express our hurts, we get angry. If no one listens to us, or we feel abandoned, rejected, neglected, etc., we feel hurt. As children we may not always have the words to say “you hurt me.” Instead, we get angry.
Anger can be useful, too. If you have been repressed or fighting an uphill battle for too long in your life, you may begin to feel fed up. The feeling of “Enough!” may actually be anger surfacing for the purpose of helping you initiate change in a potentially unpleasant situation that exists in your life. Some situation can include: a soul-killing job, or unhealthy relationship, the call to move to a new location, etc. In this aspect, anger can be useful in propelling change to happen.
Anger can be felt in various places in the body. Being a BIG emotion, it needs expansive, active expression. It requires expelling energy through big body movements and through breath work.
Some forms Anger may take:
- Being reactionary
- Expecting others to know what you need rather than asking for what you need
- Avoidance behavior
- Weight issues
- Being accusatory; blaming others; using indirect speech (typically rude/snide)
- Passive aggressive behavior
- Engaging in “punishing” behavior, to self and others
You are about to advance to the Week 3 Assignment for clearing.
REMINDER: Tools for Unpacking and Processing your Emotions
- Breathe into them. Direct your breath to the area of the body where the emotion is stored and breathe into it. Think about your the systems in your body, organs or even cells; think about limbs, skin, etc.
- Direct your focus to an area of the body where you notice the feeling sits
- Try to visualize or create a “feels like/looks like/smells like” metaphor for your emotion. Answer questions like: what does it look like; what is the consistency; what color does it have? You might get things like: Fire, smoky clouds, quicksand, sticky glue, etc. To clear, think of how you would deal with what ever appeared to you. For instance: How would you put out fire? Think about what visuals you would create in turn to clear/transform that image and the emotion you are associating with it.
- Talk to the emotion with the intention of getting to know it better. You are a journalist, and your fear is an interviewee. Ask questions such as: Where did it come from? Did it come from you or someone else? How old is it? Do you need it anymore? Is it ready to go? If so, take some deep breaths and let it release down your grounding chord.
- Drink lots of water after a clearing to flush the cells through.